First no you are not supposed to get angry . Try a boundary - if it’s screaming - just Calmly say I will not be screamed at . If you continue to scream I am going to walk away . If she keeps screaming - walk away .

This post really tugged at my heart . The kids heard all this . End conversation that escalated like this one quickly .

The kids are not painting her as the bad guy . Right now she feels like the bad guy .