Iowa - one of the hardest DB principals is the no R talk . It goes against everything you want to do or say. It’s a must though . Let her work through her emotions with out any pressure . Just smile and be polite .
The family events or holidays just set up a time you will be taking the kids alone . Have fun when you are with them . Like real fun . It may feel off at first but you will get stronger . The stronger you the better .
Even if she hasn't dropped the bomb?
She is not in the home . Yes now . No pressure . Smile . Be pleasant . No relationship talks .
If she talks you listen . Become the best listener out there . The non sense my H talked about I just sat there and listened too . I am not a very good validator but I am learning to just listen calmly .
GAL is important. The more you appear needy the less attractive . You will start to enjoy GAL. I once in awhile would throw out a feeler about family time . I learned quickly the more I brought it up the more he would pull away . I stopped asking all together . But was always friendly but a bit distant .
You are going to make mistakes . We all do . Brush it off and get back up .
