Yes my IC is amazing. She didn't mess about. First session - I basically talked at her with my issue for an hour and she effectively said, "Right we need to look at x, y, z first then a, b, c." Really clear plan. That's what I liked about her.
[Funny aside - at this point, end of May, my W texted me all supportive, saying "I really hope your counselling goes well." Then after just 2 sessions she called me that night and expected me to tell her 'well the reason why I did all of this is [one sentence/one reason]." She was angry with me that I couldn't provide a simple explanation after seeing my IC for a grand total of 2 hours over 2 weeks! Then she was angry when she found out that I'd be done by Christmas].
It's been structured and we've come up with strategies and discussed my past, home life, school life, previous Rs, R with W, R with W's family, R with W during M, then D. What led to my addiction. Why it became an addiction. How to overcome that and general low self-worth. Stress Tolerance was an issue and dealing with it. Got more in depth as we went along. One of her specific areas of training is in addressing sex/porn addiction so maybe that's why I made such good progress quickly.
I only need to see her once a month now as she says I've come a great distance. It's been worth every penny; I do not regret it at all. I could not have got through this mess without my IC. Definitely made the Xmas card list!
Yes I agree with you - accept what is and continue on your journey. Good mantra.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
