Just got home from IC. Another good session, where my IC has said that I've really taken such big steps forward that I've got into the habit of turning OUT on myself rather than turning IN on myself. I'm talking more, listening and communicating more, being more positive, accepting failures/mistakes (however tiny) and learning from them rather than dwelling on them.
Self-compassion is really powerful. And getting out of your own head by turning OUT. It sounds like you have a fantastic IC.
Originally Posted by DaB35
I'll know that I had a lovely 8 years with this person, a wonderful time when I was close to someone, but she decided she did not want to "put the effort in" (her words) when things got really bad. My sister said, "Why would you choose not to put 6-12 months of work into something, if it meant you could be happy for 40 years after that? I just don't get it!"
It's great to have family support. I get these same comments sometimes. Sometimes the support person gets really riled up and angry at my WAW. I kind of shrug my shoulders. I'm not looking to feel like the bigger person. I'm just looking to accept what-is and continue on my life journey. I still struggle with this, because I do think from time to time that at least I was willing to give it a try. I don't think this attitude is going to be helpful for me, however.
