What part of NC includes dinners and drinks? Did you pay?
You made the a strong statement regarding not working on relationship with third party involved. When you ask her if she has thought about what you discuss it negates the strong statement and displays low value.
Not sure what you mean by slow play it but I get the impression that you are working under the illusion of action and are trying to compete with the OM. Unfortunately the more you pursue the more you will suffer.
I would go back to the basics and start with Sandis 37 rules.
