Question... based on her actions and what she said, do I continue NC and slow play?
I have seen LBH's scrutinize every little thing their WW says and does, looking for a sign that tells them they (the LBH) can stop the NC or other things that may be on their plan of action. The hard truth is that many LBH's struggle with NC more than the WW. To answer your question,......... don't initiate contact with your WW. I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "slow play".
I don't initiate. I guess "slow play" meaning eventually reply to her text - several hours, next day? I've been ignoring some text and not even responding if it wasn't necessary / "business" related.
Originally Posted by sandi2
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So we ended up cleaning the rental unit for a few hours together... afterwards, we grabbed dinner and drinks.
Be honest with yourself about why you went to dinner with her. Here's the thing. She left you for another man and you suspect she has moved in with him, so why would you go to dinner and drinks with her? From the standpoint of the betrayed H, whenever the work was over with cleaning the rental, then you should have gone your separate way. Even if she invited or suggested dinner/drinks, you should not have accepted. Don't compromise with the one who is openly disrespecting you. You have nothing to discuss over dinner/drinks as long as she is sleeping with another guy.
Just been a habit, whenever we meet, we end up grabbing food. I'll decline next time.
Do I clearly state that we have nothing to talk about while AP is involved? Or just politely decline saying I have something else to do, without providing her the reason being AP is involved.
I just feel like we should have regular checkpoints to see where we stand? Or if anything changed in either direction of limbo.
I'm just a bit confused how I will ever give the impression that I have moved on if we are legally still married with assets tied together.
