A while ago we listened to the book on road trip together and pretty much determined that her love languages are between Acts of Service and Gifts. Over the course of our marriage, she complained that i'm not "sweet" enough a lot. Hardly any surprises, buying gifts for her was few and far between. I guess my family didn't show our love that way, but hers did (both of us are from strong, loving families). Her dad was and is very loving and buys her gifts still to this day. Sometimes I feel like she compares me to her dad and my lack of "sweetness". Again, mistakes that I've beat myself up over (but am trying not to now).
With that said, I'm confused about doing things and buying her things to make up for it. Since I know that that's one thing she was longing for from me. She even said that thats one of the main reasons why she's not attracted to me anymore. If knowing that that's what she wanted from me, is pulling away and not doing anything for her now counterproductive?
Despite our 2 hugs yesterday, I refrained from showing her affection today. Was that a mistake or should I have gone in for an embrace before leaving for work? I'm always thinking,"Pull away man, just pull away!"
