Question... based on her actions and what she said, do I continue NC and slow play?
I have seen LBH's scrutinize every little thing their WW says and does, looking for a sign that tells them they (the LBH) can stop the NC or other things that may be on their plan of action. The hard truth is that many LBH's struggle with NC more than the WW. To answer your question,......... don't initiate contact with your WW. I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "slow play".
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So we ended up cleaning the rental unit for a few hours together... afterwards, we grabbed dinner and drinks.
Be honest with yourself about why you went to dinner with her. Here's the thing. She left you for another man and you suspect she has moved in with him, so why would you go to dinner and drinks with her? From the standpoint of the betrayed H, whenever the work was over with cleaning the rental, then you should have gone your separate way. Even if she invited or suggested dinner/drinks, you should not have accepted. Don't compromise with the one who is openly disrespecting you. You have nothing to discuss over dinner/drinks as long as she is sleeping with another guy.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
