I don't know if she is still in comm with AP, and I haven't snooped to find out.
More than likely she is. Usually if the WAS breaks contact with OP then they tell the LBS about it, I think to assuage some of their own guilty feelings. It rarely means anything though, within a few days or week they are right back on with OP, or onto OP #2.
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I think I'm finally starting to build some walls of protection for myself. Boundaries. I keep repeating one of the suggested replys to her on here and it has become my mantra.
"Given our current situation, I don't think spending time together is a good idea"
Good, you have to kind of make yourself remember the rules at first but eventually you'll get the hang of it.
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I have discovered that I need to work on the unhealthy attachment we both have for one another.
But was it unhealthy? Here's my take. Marriage is all about coming together with another as a team. You depend on each other- codependency isn't a disease, it's NORMAL in marriage! When we get BD'd then our natural reaction is to say "I never should have gotten this attached, it hurts too much". But that's love. Being in love is a wonderful thing until a breakup, then is su$ks!
