I haven't actually said this mantra to her. I just repeat it to myself so that I can stick to the boundary if/when she asks to do anything. For now, I think she knows the answer will be no. It's nice to have that little reminder to stay grounded and not get hopeful, anxious, etc. though.
I know that this (independence and exclusivity) is the ultimate goal. It DEFINITELY feels counter-intuitive to the norm. Judge me if you will - but it doesn't feel right in my bones to just cut communication completely. I know this is the definition of feeling counter-intuitive but I have to follow my heart. I don't reach out first and have gotten slower to respond. Again, taking time for myself and letting her have whatever space she wants. Right now I'm friend-zoning her hardcore because, at this point, I'm finally to the point that I'm not sure I want to R. At least not until actions follow suit. I guess I'm just done falling for her smooth talk. (or trying to be)
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
