I think I’m starting to get it. Like I said though, she said we needed to “talk about last night” and I complied. I’ve been seizing any opportunity she presents in regards to opening a conversation. Should I have dismissed this conversation before it started?
If she wants to have a talk then you let her talk. But don't say anything back to her other than simple validating comments. Here's an example: "We need to talk, we need to get this divorce going ASAP, I can't take this anymore." "You sound frustrated, is that how you feel?" "Yes I'm very frustrated that you are not helping me with this divorce!" "I can tell you are frustrated, I am sorry you are struggling with this." "Good, so you will help me with the divorce?" "No, I do not want a divorce, but if you wish to pursue that I will not stand in your way." "How dare you blah blah blah!" "I know this is difficult for you." The point is don't argue/ beg/ plead/ negotiate/ reason just remain neutral no matter how emotional she gets.
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That’s exactly how I handled it. She said she was going to sleep in the first room and I smiled and said ok.
