I tried the touch charge too. As she was washing dishes I asked her if she could wash my plate and then touched the small of her back while I put my dish in the sink. There wasn't really a noticeable reaction, but at least she didn't recoil in disgust.
That sounds promising. Don't read too much into it, but try two/three times tonight.
Do some research on safe places to touch her. The shoulder should be your main target right now.
Do you know her main love language?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
