Not going to lie. The trip is very troubling. You handled it well because she is going no matter what you say or do. Has there been any other red flags like this? Do you know her co-workers? I'm really not buying the whole"they surprised me with a ticket" thing.
Don't dwell on it too much. But remain observant and vigilant. The truth always has a way of coming to light.
Yeah, I'm trying to control my mind from over-spinning.
For the last few years she's been closing herself off from our mutual, and Church friends. She's focused more on work friends and her family in Puerto Rico (which I was the one who reconnected them to her).
I didn't ask her what 2 (or 1 and mom) friends, she said it was somebody she has helped a lot in the past and I think she said they were taking her mom along.
She has this one friend that she talks to quite a bit on the phone (about pretty much nothing) that is a custodian at her hospital, and she helped her out because at one point she was homeless. I met her at a company picnic, didn't see anything suspicious. They hang around a lot.
I could be a jerk about it, I travel for work (although I stopped that after BD) ... I could have told her I have to be in the office Thursday but it just didn't seem worth it to do that.
I could be in denial, I've thought about it, but I don't think she's having an affair. But yeah, stuff like this doesn't help.
