LR, it's great that your H has setup an appointment with a counselor. Hopefully they will help him gain some insight into this confused mess he's made. It's not uncommon that he is doing everything opposite of what he was doing when you were together. Hiring the contractor, making progress on the remodel, etc is all just a way for his subconscious to justify that being with you was the problem and hinderance to getting things done. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, and especially that you had to leave your kids because of the circumstances. I understand why you were the one to leave, but it doesn't make it any easier. Keep your head up and try to prepare yourself for either outcome. It's not easy to do and takes a long time. Heck, I'm still struggling with it on an hourly basis. But, if you can get to a place that you no longer "need" to be with him and you are happy without, it will make you a stronger person. Sending you lots of hugs.
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
