Wow--you believe we enjoy when you make mistakes? I successfully reconciled with my partner and I really want to see you get there, too or at least be content with your choices leading to divorce.
Originally Posted by "Iowa"
I wondered if we could get some time to talk. She said "Maybe." So that's a positive.
Your "caving" and reaching out for R talk was predictable and is a typical error. Since I didn't see any indication you processed my longer reply on listening and validation, I kept it brief--
Originally Posted by "CWarrior"
Iowa, I'm rooting for you, buddy! Try to resist the urge to reach out until you read up the replies above and threads discussed.
Originally Posted by "LH19"
Now you panicked and decided to pursue and have a relationship talk which will probably end badly for you. Slow down and take some deep breathes and come here before making any decisions because unfortunately you are starting to act out of fear and that usually makes things worse.
Did you get the message?! Try to avoid an R talk tonight. Read up on Listening and Validating.
