Augusto, are in you in IC? I would highly suggest it.

You also are still too focused on her. She has hurts and pains and resentments. Fixing those is out of your control. What you can do is make sure you are working on you, to 180 on the behavior that contributed to those, so that you don't reopen those wounds in the future.

My W had a lot of pain/hurts and resentment too. I was a pretty bad husband. Very passive-aggressive, very angry and bitter. I reminded her of her father who was mean, and said things that hurt her, and made her feel not good enough.

There was nothing I could do about the past....about the nail holes I had left. All I could do was make sure never to make another one again! And that is what I have been striving to do for nearly 2 years now.

Time heals all wounds, as long as those wounds are not still being inflicted.

Last edited by Steve85; 10/30/19 07:23 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018