I am of the belief that porn use is infidelity. I go with the definition that says "Anything I wouldn't do with my W standing there watching" is cheating (within logical reasoning obviously). But then that isn't just porn use, that can be a lot of other activities and behaviors as well.
As far as good guy? Of course you are! Good people make bad mistakes. Our mistakes do not define us, how we respond to our mistakes does. For instance, we all slip up in a moment of discomfort and lie. The lie doesn't define us. But if we do not correct it with the person we told later, that does define us.
Keep working on you. D is not a destination....it is a step in the process. Plenty of LBS' have ended up D'd only to have their WAS come back at some point.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
