Running out of time ... one month left!

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Sorry you're here Augusto. I remember last May being right where you are and thinking I just had to show her something to stop the divorce. The best thing you can show is your back as you walk your own way.

Believe nothing she says and only half of what she does. Drill that into your head. Not everything she says requires a response.

So all the techniques here are about detaching, giving space and distance, and I get that. However, I'm running out of time and I feel like I have to keep finding opportunities to connect with her somehow, specially emotionally. If I just detach and not engage her enough, I feel like I'm just going to run out of time and there'll be no way to stop this divorce.

What do you think is the one action that would show her, that would change her mind for good?

I don't believe there is one.

I recommend LRT:

1. Stop pursuing (like asking her how she is doing)
2. GAL
3. Wait and see

Last night she told me she wanted to be with somebody that wasn't 50/50 , 20/80 but 100% ... I really want to see how I can show her and make her feel that that person can be me.

Try validating. That means putting yourself in her shoes a little, or least accepting that she feels that way. Say "Yea, I get that" or add to it if you're more wordy than I am.

Let go of her exaggerations and rewriting history, it's normal and you can't change it anyways. Read here and post here.