Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 4

[DaB35]

Hi DS

I checked with a divorce specialist. Sorry - my fault, I should have made it clearer. By 'on trust' I meant that it is assumed neither one of us will make a claim for the other's property/assets/inheritance money etc. in decades to come. I.e. if we just draw something up ourselves, we both in essence 'agree' to stick by it. It's not legally binding in this case, it's just assumed we'll both stick to our word.

To make what we've drawn up ourselves legally binding, that's where the £300 comes in. We essentially send a copy of what we've done ourselves to a L, who turns it into a 'financial court order'. Then both of us have to do what it says without question.

Neither of us have involved Ls at all up to this stage - in the UK it's possible to do the whole thing without Ls.

We are not technically finalised yet. The D papers were sent off in August, and it's been read out in court this week - this is the 'decree nisi', which means that court have no reason to argue why we can't get a D. Then the 'decree absolute' needs to happen a few weeks after that (6 weeks I believe?) - this is what officially ends the marriage.

I guess it might be worth paying as you say, for peace of mind...?

Haven't replied to W yet.

How about this?

"W

Thanks for this. What we drew up in August (split of items etc.) can be used "as is", but on the assumption that both of us agree to stick to our word in not claiming anything from the other in the future.

To make it legally binding and have what we've already agreed turned into a court order, it costs £300 plus £50 paid to the court when submitted. It takes a month to do. Below is an email they sent me with info. I'll ask them to contact you.

Things are really good with me thanks. Hope you are doing well too.

D"

I'm worried about 'I'll ask them to contact you' - does that come across as "sure I'll help you out with this?" Or does it say "Here's the info. They'll speak to you first as it's your project." ???