Hi everyone. It's been a while since I've been on the thread. I have been living life... Working 2 jobs, trying to spend time with my kids, etc. The jobs are really taking up most of my time. I'm hoping to leave the PT job soon. I am also coming up on 7 months of sobriety. I hope to be able to spend more time on the forums soon.
Anyways, today I'm looking for some advice, insight, etc.
Just to give a quick recap, my wife has been in replay for over 2 years. She stopped being mean and nasty to me about 8 months ago. She seems much more settled over the last few months. She even seems calm. It is also very obvious that she is dealing with bouts of deep depression. She did file for divorce in July. I almost get the feeling that she is reconsidering that. I find that she is glancing at me when I don't think she is looking. She is also helping more with the household chores. Last Friday we talked. It was the first meaningful conversation that we've had in over a year. We didn't accomplish much but it was nice to talk. She told me of all of my past mistakes and I just let her talk. It almost seemed like she was opening up the door to reconciliation.
I want to believe that she is starting to consider reconnection. The only problem is that her online ea partner is still in the picture do I know it can't be reconnection. The ea doesn't seem as if it is as active as it once was. They are not making as many public comments to each other as they used too. At this point I still know the ea to be online only because he lives in another country. There is still no evidence of a pa.
My questions are: is it possible for her to be coming out of replay, even when the ea is still going on?
Could she be trying to reconnect?
Does anyone have experience with online ea? How long do they last? Do they end quickly or slowly?
Any other insight, as always, is greatly appreciated.
