At the wedding on Sat. the preacher said there were 5 things that can insure a positive marriage. The list is as follows from what i recall
Communication: both verbal and non verbal... you need to communicate when things are good and when they go bad, don't let it stew and blow. Get it out and minimize the problem by talking it out...(my summation which doesnt happen with W.) Much more to it but this is the resounding message.
Anger Management: Don't go to bed mad at each other, try to resolve the anger even if you disagree after you have discussed. Revisit the issue after you have cooler heads, but try to resolve the anger or it will eat you up inside.
Forgiveness: We ALL MAKE MISTAKES and will make them in the future as we are human, Learn to forgive your partner for their mistakes as you will make them yourself. You don't forget, you learn from them and become stronger.
Leave work at work: Don't bring home the problems from your work and impose the feelings on the family. ( have been accused of this and actually felt I must have been oblivious to doing so) I also find it hard that W works from home and never can walk away from her O. It is quite stressful and very maddening when she gets calls from her clients from 6-8pm.
So, with listing the above, I would say the M grade for each one has been at a D+ at best. I asked if the W listened and she said,,,we aren't getting into this now. Good point, just wanted to see if she heard what he said. Not sure we will ever be able to go back and visit these points at this juncture. but i am still hopeful we can.
Ughh
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Me 58 W 58 T 36 yrs. M 32 yrs D 27 D 23 BD 8/3/19 Waiting for filing from W
