She said that we needed to talk. I said okay. She then looked in my eyes and asked said, "I think you know." I looked at her and said that I did know about her hobby.
She didn't show her face, she didn't communicate with the guys, she only posted a handful of photos, she had no intention of doing anything more, she Then she said that if I had noticed her more then she wouldn't feel the need to do this.
I then said I would tell her mom and sister because I was disgusted. Boy she got made a that and called me all sorts of names. She said that I don't own her or can't control her. I then invited her to leave if she felt like that and if she wanted to post pictures then she couldn't do it in our house. She called up her sister and to come to get her and the kids.
Hi Iowadazd,
So, she made a few advances on you this weekend, stopped posting photos, confronted you and told you she’s posting them because she wants to feel desired by you. Obviously, her having done this wasn’t the line in the sand for you. Solution? Address her dissatisfaction.. no.. you tried to control her with shame?!
Sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard to make changes on a dime. I’ve had control issues in the past like Steve and others. Really study the threads on listening and validation. There are online videos and books on those subjects. Work on your control issues. This hurt your chances, but notice that your wife is still telling you what she wants and going after it and giving you chances (her advances, flashing, this talk) and you’re the one bringing up separation. I think you still have a chance if instead of begging, arguing, etc. you work on the one person you control—you! Take care.
