I hit rock bottom when my wife asked me to leave for the rest of the week on 10/08 following a routine disagreement. I VERY reluctantly left, went to a hotel and got in my own head for 4 days, before I finally WOKE UP!
It sounds like you needed the days apart. Going forward, though, make her do any work and deal with any hardships of separating—you don’t want it, but you won’t stop her.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Originally Posted by JR425
When I came home, I moved into the basement.
Oof, very typical, but anti-DB and one to consider reversing.
Per all the suggestions, I’m going to take my bed back. I’ve been wanting to do exactly that but thought I should wait for her to suggest it. It’s felt like a punishment even if that’s not her intention. The guilt I’ve been working through made me feel deserving of being a basement dweller and isolated from my family. I isolated myself for so long maybe it was time for them to isolate me. The fact is that I’m gaining my confidence and self respect back and I deserve to sleep in our bed. I’d like her to sleep there as well, but I understand if she isn’t comfortable with it and needs to sleep in the guest room for now. I plan to tell her exactly that when she questions what I’m doing walking into our bedroom tonight.
Thank you for taking the time to reach out. I greatly appreciate any help I can get right now!
