Thankyou steve. It's an emotionally led day and objectivity is out the window.
Yes, I want her independence and happiness the same as I do for my kids.
That's the person i fell in love with. Not the person who got bound up with me in resentment and frustration and anger.
Is that ever said to the leaving spouse e.g. "I want you to be happy" or the person you are now is the person i fell in love with
Truth is I have no idea what she fell in love with.
But yes I don't think my love for her will ever diminish.
Even if we never reconcile , at some point in the future I would want to share what she meant to me. Honestly would want no other mother to my kids and I know she has flaws but cripes she shines.
Tell myself daily to drop the rope but I think it's glued to my guts.
