Well...our family activity turned out to be mostly me hanging outside with the kids. H just sat in the house watching TV. He did come outside at one point to see what we were up to...and then he started smoking a cigarette. This is out of character for him. He used to be a smoker waaaay back when we first met, but quit years ago. The only times I've seen him smoke since then were when he was at the bar (not a frequent occurrence) and during the breakup we had prior to getting married--back then, he said he smoked because hanging out with me made him nervous. After he smoked last night, he went back in the house to watch more TV.
Later that evening, H and I had some playful banter about who was going to keep what stuff from the house. (This was not the first playful exchange we've had.)
Now I'm not sure what to make of all this. Prior to BD, I thought H was suffering from depression, but during BD he said his "depression" was just him being unhappy in the marriage and wanting a divorce. I will admit that he has seemed happier, at least initially, but now I'm not so sure. He's not keeping his house clean like he was when we first separated, he's spending lots of money on vanity items while being very frugal with necessities, he's exercising a lot but eating junk food, and now I guess he's smoking. Prior to BD he was actually trying to take up drinking (to cope with being married to me, he said) so I guess smoking is the better choice...?
I don't know if I'm reading too much into this or not, but I get the impression that whatever was affecting his mood prior to BD is still there, and now it looks like he's trying to utilize any coping mechanism he can.
