But it is okay to be confused, as long as your recognize your confusion. Trust me, I've lived it, the worst thing you can do is to make the decision to walkaway to quickly, and then spend the rest of your life wondering if you had been more patient how things might have turned out.
Wish you could have said that to my W Steve85, before she started with D proceedings! Took her less than 12 weeks to go from BD to application.
Iowa, definitely look into IC. Yes it's a bit pricey for me too, but it's been the absolute best thing I could do. FOR MYSELF. You can start doing it for yourself; you maybe don't even need to tell your S about it at first. Then if she notices things you can mention it and suggest going together, or she could go see someone alone. In my IC I have talked through so much and identified areas that I needed to work on - goals etc. I'm working on them now still and progressing well. If my W notices changes down the line, fine. If she doesn't, fine. If she does notice but then resents me for it, fine. If she doesn't notice and assumes I'm still the same old person, fine.
Whatever, do it for yourself. I've spent about �750 on IC here in UK. All worth it; I do not regret a penny.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
