She stated that these past few days were no good for anyone, it made her confused and probably confused me and the kids too.
She was also concerned about what her friends would think
She said she needed a private life, that she had shared too much with me about what she was doing socially and that we should only communicate about work and kids.
I validated and replied that things would be easier once I moved into new place this week and could help take some of the pressure off.
First off if you are referring to the picnic analogy then you are 100% correct. She went out and sat down for the picnic and then suddenly realized where she was and with who and ran away. She ran back in the castle and raised the drawbridge.Totally normal reaction, that's why there is a picnic analogy in the first place!
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She stated that the kids were not the pressure, that I had been the burden , that she fell into feeling sad about me, and that she knew that all my issues could be worked through but that it was no longer her business.
I validated and agreed with this.
Good. She says blah blah blah, you listen and validate. Why? Because what she's saying is just a reflection of her mindset at that moment in time. She may think something completely differently in a month, week or even hour.
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It just appears that she is really really happy to be liberated and free and that her future looks so positive leaving a relationship that I believe she has convinced herself that she was trapped in.
WAS's are masters of acting "as if". They act like the new life they're pursuing is perfect, the answer to all their hopes and dreams. The reality is she's struggling. There's a storm inside her, she's fighting between wanting to go back to her old life and thinking she needs to pursue a new one. Which will win out is anyone's guess, but don't believe the placid, happy face she's putting on, it's a mask.
