What if I told you that if you held out for X amount of time (insert 6 months, a year, 2 years or whatever in the X) that she would eventually turn things around and become willing to try? Would you be patient for the X amount of time? Whether 6 months or 2 years?
ozman, you are cycling. And now you are cycling back to where you were before. You are impatient because you feel you need to take action (IE taking a second job) instead of focusing on you. You are still trying to make HER happy, and that is NOT in your power to do. If you learn nothing else through this whole ordeal you should learn one simple truth: Happiness comes from within! It is not something that can be affected by external factors. Therefore you could have 1 job, or 100 jobs. You could continue to not have a lot of money or become uber rich. None of that means she will be happy. Heck, rich people have a higher rate of divorce than power people do!!
ozman, does holding down two jobs, working the above schedule 7 days a week, make you happy?? Because it certainly doesn't make her happy, as you are finding out. Her happiness is her responsibility, not yours. And you will be just out chasing rainbows if you think there is an action you can take to make her happy.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
