Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 4

[DaB35]

Hi AS, thanks for replying.

I did look into it for literally ten minutes (not sure why she couldn't have found this out herself - it's all on the website with the article she sent me, and there's an online live chat feature with people who work there). It is not strictly necessary.

In theory, if both Ss draw something up and sign it, then it can be done without a L, but the crucial thing here is it's done 'on trust'; i.e. it is therefore assumed that neither S will, in decades to come, claim inheritance or other assets etc.
We can draw something up ourselves and get it 'approved' by a L at a cost of £300. This makes it legally binding.

We have no kids and have already agreed what we'll do with the house proceeds (50/50) and agreed who gets what in the house (all itemised lists). We have also stipulated that personal accounts and credit card debts in individual names will not be shared. We just have one joint account which will be split 50/50 after all costs have been paid. Am I being too naive here? In the UK we don't seem as litigious as the US.

Yes I would say she's trying to be nice in the hopes that you'll do everything for her and make life easy-street. Don't do it!

My thoughts exactly. A cynical part of me believes she is thinking: "well he still massively has NGS and so will do whatever I ask to avoid conflict." Well, I have been battling this as part of my GAL these last 5 months, so I certainly won't be bending over backwards to do everything she asks.

How should I respond?

DRAFT (not sent!):
"W

Thanks for this. It doesn't seem too complex. What we have drawn up already can be used, though it is done on trust that neither of us will claim anything from the other in the future. If you want it to be legally binding and have what we've drawn up turned into a court order, then it will cost £300.

I will forward you an email they sent me with information. It sounds like you feel like you have had to do everything. I am happy to cooperate, but as the whole D process is entirely your decision I believe the court order application should not come from me.

[is that too confrontational and aggressive? I can just predict how that's gonna go down!]

Things are going really well for me thanks. Hope you are doing ok too.

[too upbeat and arrogant saying I'm doing really well (I am!)? Is just hoping she's 'doing ok' a bit inconsiderate?]

Regards
D"