I need to clear up a few things. First, it's amazing how people will fill in the gaps. I'm not sad, mopey or cold around my W. I still play with my kids. I am quiet around her but people get quiet at times. My W knows this.
Like I said. I think she knows that I know about her "hobby" When we had the talk in Sept she told me that she was bored and she was feeling inhibited and was worried about our future. She seemed worried that I don't lust after her anymore (I did) and wouldn't get that feeling back. She didn't want a divorce and didn't bring it up. My W is not a fool. She knows that we are struggling right now. She may not know that I saw her photos but that isn't the issue. really.
Steve.... I am confused I don't know if I'm the LBS or WAH. I'm not sure why you think I'm being contradictory. I really don't. I've seen an number of LBS go back and forth as well.
I do want to save my marriage but am I saving it for the wrong reason - kids, finances, etc.? I've read a number of stories on her about people drawing lines in the sand. One person said that once their spouse cheated that was the end and there was nothing that could be done. Their line was infidelity and no matter what the spouse did- changed 180, did everything right. They would never get that person a chance. Are the pictures my line? Is it saying she's like my sister?
