Hoosjim's back... and maybe his WW, too (?)

[SteveLW]

Hoosjim, all great points. I really do believe in the PTSD thing though. So maybe #2, explaining to your W that you have some hangups that you just need to work through and that you will be completely open with her about what those things are if she really wants to know. But that you think it is best working it out in IC instead of burdening her with your hangups.

Maybe that won't work. Maybe it will.

I'd say go with #4 first, if it doesn't stop festering then move on to #2 with as much openness as she needs to feel comfortable.