I did not reconcile. I am in a new long term relationship (Close to 10 years now).
With my lady, I do not ask questions about past sexual experiences. When she brings them up, I will listen. I make it safe for her talk so I can know the "real her". Can you get mentally to that point?
You will know all her "dirty secrets" and still be OK with it and love her more for being open and honest and vulnerable?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712