Grace - It’s all a normal part of the process. Time will heal you. So wise to look at how far you have come!

I had a live - in MLCer for 4 years. Know that someone who blows up their life in this fashion is truly broken. And they always choose a broken down OW; clearly the case here as they both were having affairs. It’s a pretty vulgar start to their “romance.” Nothing to envy there. They will work their issues out on each other and that’s why they were attracted.

Regarding Halloween and not wanting to be asked questions, that is understandable. We learn who our supporters are. I went to the first family wedding since my D and coming from a very Catholic family I was dreading it. But the person I was most worried about told me to hold my head high and feel no shame.

We begin slow by rebuilding some beautiful moments in all this chaos. Then suddenly we start to build beautiful days and then weeks. And somehow years later, we have build a beautiful life!!! Like Peace says, years later, the pain is gone. It takes time.

You are the prize. Hold your head up high and your shoulders straight!

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced