I don't get trying to get random women to hook up with me. I'm baffled why a pro marriage site would say this is ok.
I suspect you misunderstood the advice. Few would propose random hookups in your situation.
Originally Posted by "IowaDazd"
My wife kept asking if something was wrong. I just said I was tired from work. I tried to avoid one-on-one conversations. She also propositioned me a couple of times and I said no.
The combo of being mopey, confusing, and turning down advances is unlikely to help.
Originally Posted by "IowaDazd"
I had a thought about cutting the internet service to the house and relying only on phones. Then I could limit her access to posting photos.
You control you. She controls her. "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." Watch for other controlling tendencies and if there's a trend consider this as a possible 180 to becoming a stronger, better you.
Originally Posted by "IowaDazd"
As for the divorce decision, I don't want to split up a family. At the same time, I don't know how I can forgive my wife and move forward.
Okay, you've actually done something strong--you've realized for now your desire to keep your family together is stronger than your sense of anger/betrayal over her secretly baring her breasts on the Internet. So, not the right time to set a hard boundary like "I won't be in a relationship with someone who bares their breasts to other men." You also stated a huge obstacle is learning to be compassionate and forgive. This is something you can work on with a therapist! There are also many websites on forgiveness and compassion.
For now, review Sandi's rules and the Detachment thread for ideas on how to detach without being cold or angry. Those help answer immediate questions while you do long-term work.
