WMLC - Thoughts appreciated!

[peacetoday]

Hope you are feeling good and your eyes are healing

Sometimes they get moments also of clarity and normal ness

Im sure she still loves you and if she is showing up as normal by missing her son and wishing you well after surgery
that is a plus...for the co-parenting life

anything we can do especially for the kids to keep things peaceful with the MLCer is good
Only time will tell- really it is time
to see her choices, her direction and how she shoes up for the kids

I like the strategy of being kind and cordial...setting boundaries when needed and being present especially for myself,
my healing and letting them go but doing it lovingly
you will know so much more in like 6 months -1 year
if you can be patient..go to individual counseling, heal and grieve...the benefit you will get will be enormous and 1 year is not a long time--by then you will be able to see things clearly also and make better choices for you-and your son-

working on creating a new life..grieving the old M and seeing where she goes
not being super available but reachable at times

unfortunately, there is no easy way to make them see the light or want to work on the relationship
but if they can still show up as a good parent and kind person...that is a great thing