Mix of odd emotions today . I’m having a hard time myself just getting back into the flow of normalcy having both of us committed to M. I became very independent over the last few months with making decisions on pretty much everything by myself and for myself . If I wanted to go GAL on a Monday I just went . If I wanted new clothes I just went shopping . If I didn’t want to talk to H I just didn’t answer phone . H did spend alot of time in and out of our home and with me . But I had let go of the I guess attachment of having a committed relationship and just lived for me and the kids . Don’t want to backslide on it but at same point being in a marriage I do have to consider H opinion on things too . Maybe it’s the unknown. Planning GAL was easy I had a few days or evenings a week open as H was very active in co parenting when split .
Cali, first congrats on getting to piecing! I never made it but those that do say it's the hardest work of all, so keep in mind you've both got a rough road ahead. Regarding your GAL, you should by all means continue to do so. I would look at this early phase as "dating" rather than resuming "being married". So if you want to go shopping then do so. Want to GAL on a Monday then go for it. You don't want to talk to H then don't answer the phone. ALL OF THAT is probably a big factor in why he wanted to recon, because he realized you were high value and he was missing out. So keep that up.
Should you consider his opinions? Well yes, but that doesn't mean you have to ask his permission every time you want to go shopping or GAL. Remember, HE needs to do the hard work to earn you back, not you. You aren't the one that left.
