Rooskers,

I saw an advert for a you tube video yesterday on the concept of DARVO.

Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim, Offender.

It fits into my sitch perfectly, but i also thought of you when i watched it.

I think this concept fits in well with a lot of WAW and what the LBS go through..

What i find most interesting is the play on victim vs the supposed attacker / offender.

I know links are not allowed on the forum, but assume i can advise on what to search for on youtube ?

DARVO: Deny, Attack and Reverse Victim and Offender

its 22.53 long.

There is a lot of insight into the WAW lies etc.

About 2/3 way though she discusses how the WAW as the victim will still continually try to contact and make accusations against the supposed offender. Yet if they were the victim of these supposed horrible incidents, they would be running for the hills, not still trying to make contact.

In your case, my case and many others, the WAW has made a string of accusations, yet still wants a piece of our life, yet we are the ones who want to move on / be left alone..

After i watched this vid, i had a quick scroll though my phone. 100% of the contact to myself is started by my ex.. 100% ! - a lot of it pointless, a lot of it random attacks or statments which i just ignore.

I think this very much applies to your sitch as well..

IMO, it shows who the true VICTIMS are in these sitchs...

Unfortunetly, they are good at telling anybody and everybody a different story.

I don't think there is a lot you can do other than protect yourself, carry on being an amazing father to your daughter and enjoy life...

Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..

Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.