I did have one more thought about your situation as I was driving home from my mother's. You have tenants in your home that in a way are paying the mortgage on your home as they are renters. You have to remember...the courts do not look at that situation the same way that you do. They are looking at the rent being paid to you as additional income and your h and the lawyers may be looking at it the same way as well.
When I was going through my negotiations, I finally had to ask my lawyer: "Who are you working for...my husband or me? It appears to me that you should be working for me since I'm the one writing the checks to you. Now, get cracking on my case and let's get this mess moving." Once he realized that I could see that he was being passive and just playing around ramping up the billable hours, he soon got to work. He found out that he didn't have some sniffling biddy sitting in his office, but someone who knew what was up and wasn't playing games. Sometimes, you have to get tough w/the lawyers who are suppose to be representing you and maybe it's time to get tougher w/yours.
Gerda, please take care of yourself and your children. Leave all of the heavy lifting to your lawyer and yes, get tougher w/him. After all you are paying him to represent you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
