Was asked to go to the wedding Thursday for the Saturday event. She said it snuck up on her and needed to know if I was going and needed an a seer right then. My concern in going is for a group of her friends from the beach in which I have been pretty much shunned from going. Quite frankly, I am not close to any of them due to the lack of always having to stay home and attend to everyone’s animals.

I did go but was reluctant, although I felt I needed to go being both D27 and fiancé, and D23 w BF were going. I saw no way out with all of them attending. Most disturbing is my W has stopped wearing her wedding rings since 8/4/19 it has been a real internal issue of mine which she is aware of from the past not wearing them. I knew this would be the case and it put me in a low spot which resulted in me not wearing mine. Quite childish on my behalf but warned to make a point. Not a word said from anyone....which was good. The problem is I am here on the board and am feeling there are glimpses of her being nice.....just nice, and I feel there should be more movement in one direction or another. There hasn’t been any discussions regarding a D in 45 days. I find it hard to not think a D is eminent and can’t get this thought out of my head. I am really struggling with this. Def not what I want but feel I am wasting my time and only setting myself up for a letdown.

I really need some feedback on whether this thought process s common or not and additionally some insight into how to handle it. Any help would be so greatly appreciated!!

Overall the wedding was okay....W was not very warm to me during the night but was better when we got home. I think some of her attitude could have been due to her personal friends she has talked to regarding the sitch and could have felt a bit uncomfortable with me there.

It’s late and should be getting rest. Hope my post makes some sense, if not I’ll try to be more clear tomorrow.

Thanks for any input you can give.


Zip


Me 58 W 58
T 36 yrs. M 32 yrs
D 27 D 23
BD 8/3/19
Waiting for filing from W