22 years gone

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MrBrside thanks for the reply. I don't worry about it anymore this was more toward the beginning stages of XW leaving. I have taken as many precautions as I can. It was because of this behavior I ceased all contact, except through email, and have never been in her presence again. She is required by the divorce decree to pick up D13 on her visitations and drop her off so I never have to go to XW's place again. Through email I let her know she can pick up D13 at school where there are security camera's and lots of witnesses. During drop off D13 has requested it be at the mailboxes which means she does not come near the house. The day she screamed "stop hurting me" and all that other garbage was the day I ceased all interaction with her except as it relates to D13 and only through email or lawyer. Once I did this all the accusations stopped but the new ones started.

The second attack was saying how she didn't understand any of the legal papers for the divorce. She didn't realize what any of it meant and wouldn't have signed it it she had known. Didn't work because I have an email from her talking about all the details of what she didn't agree with and what she did and thanking me for being willing to make the changes she requested. My lawyer also made her sign a document declaring he was not her lawyer and he had recommended she get her own representation. He also would not let her sign the papers in his office until three weeks had passed and she had time to think it over with her own representation. She wanted the divorce so bad she went to have them signed at someplace else the next week.

XW third method of attack was accusing me of not providing the proper medical/mental care for D13. She started telling the neighbor that she was worried for D13's safety. That didn't work either because D13 has a therapist and I have all records of medical, dental, orthodontics, dermatologist, and therapy appointments I have taken D13 too. XW finally stopped these attacks as well.

Her current attack method is accusing me of manipulating D13 and causing extreme distancing between them. This isn't working either because D13's work at her therapy sessions has only revealed XW interactions with D13 is what is causing the distancing and harm. Her continued interactions with D13 during her visitations continues to deteriorate any hope of a mother/daughter relationship which is devastating to me. I have tried my best by relaying through email what D13 discusses during her therapy and never insert myself in the email. Example "D13 after her therapy session said she believes that XXXXX would help her to rebuild trust with you." XXXX might be crafting or being asked before inviting guys over. This seemed to worsen things so I have stopped all communication in that regards as well. The therapist had a similar phone conversation with XW and XW agrees to these things but then does the complete opposite when D13 visits.

Any ideas what attack I should prepare myself for next?

She said she wanted a divorce so I gave it to her.
She said she wanted me to raise D13 so I am.
She said she wanted me to stay away from her so I did.
She said she wanted a clean slate, she has one.
She said she wants to help D13 but keeps harming her.
She said she wanted to be single she is.

So why in the heck does she keep doing this? Honestly she has what she asked for now GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!