I am so sorry that you've been through the h3ll and back this week. He literally has taken the control away from you, i.e., first the car, now your home and cabin and whatever else he can think of. I feel terrible for you. However, once things settle down a bit this weekend, you will be able to think clearly and come to realize that if all of this should come to pass, you will finally be free of some of the financial burden you have been dealing with.
I have a question that has been on my mind for quite some time...what is the reason that your h can't work a full time job? Is it a health issue or he just doesn't want to work? If it's because he doesn't want to work, I'm surprised that the court didn't tell him to get a full time job. As for the child support, I'm absolutely shocked that the court didn't opt to have it taken from the support money that you are paying him.
As for the home and cabin, I know you love the places, but they have been a ball and chain around your neck for quite some time. Once you have had time to breathe and just sit for a bit, think about where you want to move to and start looking. It doesn't hurt to start planning now because your properties may sell quicker than you think.
These MLCers have to tear everything down to the foundation in order to rebuild their lives. They do not care about anyone else but themselves. It is unfortunate when the LBS and children are caught in the cross fire and the MLCer is so vindictive/angry and wants to control everything...right down to making us feel like they want to destroy us. But...in true fashion, the people they truly want to strike out at, but can't/won't, are the people who stunted them emotionally many, many years ago.
Gerda, you will rise above all of this mess in time. Right now, everything looks dark and bleak...but I can assure you, as each day passes, things will become more clearer and you will find a way to get to the other side. I know, I've been there myself. Now, take the time to truly breathe!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
