Confused and Lost

[KristinG]

May - that's a great idea and I've been trying to think through different things to say when she inevitably invites me to do something.

"I already have plans, but thanks"
"Unless things have somehow changed for you, I do not want to spend time together."
"AHHHH I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY?!" haha

I am epic failing at DB with not responding to her texts. Mostly, she is treating me as a friend and as if nothing happened. But also confusing the heck out of me with texts about her new job and adding me as beneficiary, talking about retirement plans, giving me financial advice. I have responded, but tried to keep it short. "Ok, thanks, etc" It's making me so angry how easily she can get her hooks into me for a response. I'm reading and re-reading all of your posts and encouragement.

I was thinking about things last night and how do Sandi's rules change or alter when dealing with a WS as opposed to a WAS? Many of the rules seem drastically soft to be enforced on a S in an active affair.

I'm making plans again tonight with a friend so I'm successfully removing myself from hermit mode. That part feels good, because for the last 6 months plus I have not been motivated to do anything.