Thanks for stopping by BnB. I have been trying to catch up on your thread - will soon. It was hard having H move back in & then leave again because I was starting to get used to being alone again. It was really hard when he left this time but I think it is making it easier to detach. But then again, if he starts to come around & starts to be nice, it will be hard to not fall back in to it all again. If you think your H is not ready to live together agin then I would maybe wait. Being together gives you the chance to DB more but if he is not ready, he may be looking for trouble no matter what you do.

Actually have some positives for today:

Saw H at work. He came up to talk to me & finally promised me $ for truck pmt. Chatted for a little bit. He was nice, I stayed calm & matter of fact, didn't get emotional. When he left to go back in to work he said "I gotta go (his boss came outside), I'll talk to you again sometime." He yelled back from the door "It was good to see you".

So, I will take the interaction as positives since he has not approached me to talk in quite awhile. He mentioned that he gave cell phone back to ex OW (they were still "friends" supposedly??) so he doesn't have a phone right now. Guess she made him mad too. He said he saw his sister this weekend but is going to stay away from her for while cuz he thinks she is getting a little wild now that she is separated. I was glad to hear that because I thought maybe he was getting in to that party scene w/ her. I told him about a couple things I did around the house & he said he would have taken care of them. I just said that I am trying to take care of things on my own now.

Trying to look for baby steps...

slt