WMLC - Thoughts appreciated!

[peacetoday]

I would not try to read to much into anything she says
yes it can be confusing because we are looking for any validation to make sense of their actions

I would watch her actions as you continue to do your life
be there for the kids, help her if she asks and start creating new activities and friends for you

If she has a change of heart, you will see it
she may want to keep you as plan B, so her niceness may just keep you dragged in for a time

The Mlcer usually does not jump into D quickly...some drag their feet

Now that she finally got everyone to AGREE with her choice of D..
maybe she is wanting to go slow and make sure

They will display a lot of touch and goes
come closer and move away

It is crazy making behavior for the LBS

After all they are giving up a secure M, finances home, family on a maybe, questionable new person and new life
and usually as you have read their new life quickly turns sour

But it takes time..they cant see it yet
its almost t like they have to experience it and maybe some of them call it in because their childhood trauma will not allow them to work things out
They have to relive the teen years-


DB suggests dont push for D, give them space and time to figure it out, but I also see the value of letting them see what their doing..Im not sure if either way really works