Was talking to my mom tonight on the phone. Don't talk about H at all because she & rest of family think I should have said good riddance over a year ago. They don't understand how I can still love him. She started talking about how I should just file for D & move on. She is worried that he will try to take 401K, etc from me & will have a good chance the longer we are married. Maybe I am nieve, but I don't think he would go after it & I don't think he could get it since we have no kids, have only been married 2.5 years, w/ him not living here for over 1 year.
Anyway, my sister has been doing alot of research in to attachment disorder. She has a foster daughter that she is in the process of adopting & has been having testing, therapy etc done. She thinks my H also has this based on factors in his past, how he grew up etc. He does have alot of these traits & I am sure it could explain alot of his actions in our M & his relationship w/ his family, etc.
They think that even if he wanted to come back & work on our M, it would not be worth it because he has these issues & will never get past them w/out alot of therapy which he is currently against. That even w/ therapy he might be too old to get thru the issues (should have been dealt w/ when he was a child) A part of me can see this & think that I should just let go but I love him & still want him & our M back.
Anyone out there have experience w/ Dbing a spouse that may have a mental/emotional disorder?
