I made a few stipulations- obviously marriage counseling was the big one . He needs to repair whatever damaging things that were said untruthful about me to his family and friends . His revision was very bad and painted me in a very awful view.
Logistically - he can move whatever he took back as he has time . I will say I’m maybe one of the few luckier ones on here . I bought our home solo 6 years ago before we were married and he would never fight me for it or have made me sell . When we split there was not much he took besides personal items .
As far as the breakdown or cause of split . I did ask . From what he says he’s a people pleaser and got to the point of just wanting to live for himself only . When his auto immune disease flairs he’s down for weeks sometimes months at a time . When he recovers he just tries to do everything he wants and doesn’t really care who he hurts. For some reason this time he got sick he just realized what he’s been doing . I gently implied it’s been going on for years . I end up full of resentment because I’m always just an after thought or not even a thought . I suggested IC to handle this on his part .
A- is there one now . No . I can tell you he will never admit to one if there was one . He did say on several occasions he wanted to be a free spirit . I have the feeling the dating world was not what he imagined as he continued to run home several times a week . Grass was not so green . The one DB technique that clearly had results not only on myself but H was GAL being a mystery . I still haven’t told him what I did. The mystery of me not sitting home like a sad puppy honestly sometimes really messed him up . To the point it was an eye opener for him to see my life didn’t stop because he walked out . I do GAL a lot and dress to impress .
