FWIW, when I see the recommendation to go shooting I also interpret it as a "macho" rather than "alpha" thing. I enjoy shooting and all the points made about it are good, but something like 70% of the people at the ranges by me are over-compensating yahoos so that's what I associate with it. Having said that, when I have time to go to a long-gun range it's a lot more civilized. The "style" probably varies a lot by the area - country vs city, etc. So, people around me may just be macho d-bags.
One other thought on shooting - with the risk of violence and suicide correlated with divorce it may be worth recommending other GALs. I'm not suggesting that anyone on this board is a threat but I heard several threats in my state-required co-parenting class and if I was the soon-to-be XW in those circumstances I'd be afraid for my safety. If shooting is one of your hobbies already I'd say go for it. But I myself wouldn't encourage it as a new hobby or one to be picked up after not having done it for years, at least not right away.
I would point out that you can just rent a firearm. Then the concerns you raise are less of an issue.
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