Great job K!! Not to be pushy... but have you thought at all about changing the locks? You've taken a big symbolic step to detach and focus on YOU by taking off your ring, and I just want to put out there that the locks are also symbolic but also protective-- taking off your ring won't stop her from coming over next time she is drunk and sad, and that could put you in a spin. Just want to send some continued support to you for taking this all a day at a time, protecting yourself, and planning to fill your days with people who love you like you did last night during this difficult space.
Wedding rings are weird... my H takes his off all the time for surfing and yoga (BTW all this talk about shooting ranges and being macho/alpha cracks me up, we are in such a different community... yoga is where I can forget my sitch) and told me that he isn't as quick to put it back on afterwards because of what is going on between us... but he does, neither of us mention it now but I am always looking to see if it is on or off and (maybe stupidly) take some measure of comfort when he is wearing it. He wore it on his trip (though might be taking it off while there for all I know). For you guys (K and CG) when did your spouses take theirs off? CG, when did you take yours off?
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
