Why does the stuff they say hurt so much, even when deep down we know it is not true? H sister said all she did was ask H why he got married if he supposedly never loved me(she never thought he was ready at the time). He said he wanted to impress my family. He has said that to me before when mad. SIL told me that her H just said the same thing to her - that he never loved her, just married because she was pregnant. But, he is already questioning leaving her & it has only been a few weeks.
I know he loved me & I truely think that he still does. But it hurts me that he can believe right now that he doesn't & maybe never did. He told his sister that he tried really hard for the few weeks he moved back but he was just unhappy.
Even that is frustrating. Yes, he told me he was unhappy a couple times but he also told me many times that he was happy, loved me, was back where he belonged, could see how much I had changed, etc.
I know I have to let it go, it just makes me sad. I know that there is no way I could convince him right now that he is wrong & I wouldn't even try anymore. Maybe I just think that he will never miss me or think about us if he has convinced himself that he never loved me to begin with.
Just feeling a little sad. I know I need to not dwell on things because most is just being said to hurt my feelings or to convince himself he was right to leave.
