Gerda Rises Up to Go On

[DnJ]

Tea?!?

Sounds like whiskey time. Lol.

I am so sorry Gerda. Be strong.

You have custody agreed upon, right? What is the arrangement? 50/50? Share if you like. Be accurate. It helps. I know I’ve ask before and could probably find your answer, but I’m lazy. Haha. Or giving your mind something to do.

So with custody settled, all that’s left is money. Negotiating is taking a toll on you, and your accounts. I do trust your judgement in this, and I support your efforts at court. That being said, if the settlement is getting closer, or close enough, your health and happiness is worth a lot more. Only you know all the details.

I do wish we could sit an enjoy a cup of coffee and tea - heavy cream and sugar. (Those haters can go svck eggs. Haha. I still laugh from when you said that.) Advice and encouragement - I’m really a lot better in real time. Oh well, you’re stuck with me like this.

Let the kids think about things for a while. When they come to you, listen and validate their views. For right now don’t worry about correcting H’s misinformation about sleeping arrangements that he told D10. Kids have a way of “seeing” the truth of things.

D10 has already acknowledged Papa cheated on you - this shows she knows about proper relationship values and roles of Mom and Dad. She also call OW, Papa’s girlfriend - this is good. D10 needs to accept this, and understand it. And that is perfectly age appropriate. Well done Mom!!

Listen and validate. Gentle steer D10 and S15 when warranted.

I know this does not feel good. You know I’m going to say something about following feelings. Sword and shield dear friend - logic and reason. Intellectual car stuff.

Pour out your emotions here or into a pillow or on a walk. Then get in that car. Think about your situation. Write down your thoughts - those well reasoned thoughts and the goals you are after in negotiations. I would love to hear them, and completely understand if you choose not to share them here. With goals written down, regroup, breath deeply, and keep moving forward.

(((Gerda)))

DnJ